Lately discipline has been on my mind a lot lately. When my husband works a lot I sometimes feel like all the discipline is left up to me. So of course I am feeling like the bad guy who is always starting a sentence with “stop, don’t or no”. The hardest part for me is trying to figure out if the punishment fits the crime and the age. When I am babysitting little ones I use the time out method. One minute for each year in age. That works pretty well. The older age groups are a little harder. Sending kids to their rooms don’t really seem like a punishment because my kids have lots of fun stuff to do in their rooms. When I have to take something away I always feel guilty and end up giving in. I have a lot of trouble sticking to my own rules but I am trying harder to stand my ground. I have the toughest time when it comes to discipline and my 10 year old. She is definitely sassy and how do you say it? She is very stong willed and always challenges me. I love her to death but she puts me to the test on a daily basis. I have tried everything I can think of when it comes to disciplining her. We have done time outs, grounding, no phone, no television, no computer and no fun activities. Nannah’s main issue is she can be a smarty pants. She always has to get that last word in. Oh and she picks on her brother and sisters. I have been looking all over for ideas on how to handle her before she really gets out of control. Does anyone have any suggestions?
How do you handle discipline?
Posted By 1stopmom On Monday, January 19th 2009 In Kids Tags: Kids5 Comments
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I totally agree I’m having a problem trying to figure out just how to discipline my 3 year old. We put her on time out in her room but now it doesn’t bother her because everything is in there. She is very strong willed always has been so it’s always a challenge. I found your blog by way of mommydaddyblog.com.
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I wish I had some great advice for you, but unfortunately, my time honored method of a cast-iron-skillet-to-the-noggin is now a sure way to get arrested… what is this world coming to? But, I do have something for you… an award for you over on my site… may not be an answer, but at least, hopefully, it’s a smile!
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The best advice I can offer is DON’T GIVE IN. Giving in shows weakness and weakness tells your kids they can do as they want because nothing that bad will happen.
Our son lost his bedroom tv 6 months ago because of his attitude. Each time he smarted off, it sat in the closet for another month. Each month we hear less and less from his mouth and he may actually get it back in the next 2 weeks.
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I’m really on the “spanking doesn’t work” bandwagon so i went through alot of the same things you are. Being single and having idiots for exes doesn’t help either since much of the behavior that gets my kids in trouble comes from the idiots themselves.
When my daughter went through this, I started giving her more chores and making her write essays about her behavior. The way I saw it was that if she had time to smart mouth me then she obviously needed something to do. if it was particularly bad, she got an extra chore to do like the dishes or something like that. If it was relatively minor or hurtful to someone else then she had to write me an essay on why her behavior wasn’t appropriate and how it made myself or another person feel. And if she picked on one of the other kids, they got to choose a chore of theirs to give her for the day. It worked pretty well. I can’t say it solved EVERYTHING of course, but it helped a good bit and ended some of the power struggle.
Goooooooood Luck!
My husband and I have three sons, ages 22, 19 and 12 and so far so good. Not to say that we haven’t had our trials, we have, trust me on this. But, I think the best thing my husband and I have done in parenting is to stick together in our decision making concerning the boys and stood undivided, and believe me, the children can and will try to divide the two of you to get what they want. If they don’t get what they want from Mama they’ll go to Daddy and vice versa. Hey, they’re kids, they don’t know any better. And when you tell them that they are going to be punished, in whatever way that might be, follow through. If they know you will do what you say you’re going to do or what’s going to happen they’ll be a lot less likely to “test” you.