Comments on: How do you handle discipline? http://1stopmom.com/2009/01/19/how-do-you-handle-discipline/ Thu, 17 May 2012 07:48:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Loretta http://1stopmom.com/2009/01/19/how-do-you-handle-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1155 Loretta Fri, 23 Jan 2009 17:11:04 +0000 http://1stopmom.com/blog2/?p=1435#comment-1155 My husband and I have three sons, ages 22, 19 and 12 and so far so good. Not to say that we haven't had our trials, we have, trust me on this. But, I think the best thing my husband and I have done in parenting is to stick together in our decision making concerning the boys and stood undivided, and believe me, the children can and will try to divide the two of you to get what they want. If they don't get what they want from Mama they'll go to Daddy and vice versa. Hey, they're kids, they don't know any better. And when you tell them that they are going to be punished, in whatever way that might be, follow through. If they know you will do what you say you're going to do or what's going to happen they'll be a lot less likely to "test" you. My husband and I have three sons, ages 22, 19 and 12 and so far so good. Not to say that we haven’t had our trials, we have, trust me on this. But, I think the best thing my husband and I have done in parenting is to stick together in our decision making concerning the boys and stood undivided, and believe me, the children can and will try to divide the two of you to get what they want. If they don’t get what they want from Mama they’ll go to Daddy and vice versa. Hey, they’re kids, they don’t know any better. And when you tell them that they are going to be punished, in whatever way that might be, follow through. If they know you will do what you say you’re going to do or what’s going to happen they’ll be a lot less likely to “test” you.

]]> By: Nessa http://1stopmom.com/2009/01/19/how-do-you-handle-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1154 Nessa Wed, 21 Jan 2009 16:11:04 +0000 http://1stopmom.com/blog2/?p=1435#comment-1154 I'm really on the "spanking doesn't work" bandwagon so i went through alot of the same things you are. Being single and having idiots for exes doesn't help either since much of the behavior that gets my kids in trouble comes from the idiots themselves. When my daughter went through this, I started giving her more chores and making her write essays about her behavior. The way I saw it was that if she had time to smart mouth me then she obviously needed something to do. if it was particularly bad, she got an extra chore to do like the dishes or something like that. If it was relatively minor or hurtful to someone else then she had to write me an essay on why her behavior wasn't appropriate and how it made myself or another person feel. And if she picked on one of the other kids, they got to choose a chore of theirs to give her for the day. It worked pretty well. I can't say it solved EVERYTHING of course, but it helped a good bit and ended some of the power struggle. Goooooooood Luck! I’m really on the “spanking doesn’t work” bandwagon so i went through alot of the same things you are. Being single and having idiots for exes doesn’t help either since much of the behavior that gets my kids in trouble comes from the idiots themselves.

When my daughter went through this, I started giving her more chores and making her write essays about her behavior. The way I saw it was that if she had time to smart mouth me then she obviously needed something to do. if it was particularly bad, she got an extra chore to do like the dishes or something like that. If it was relatively minor or hurtful to someone else then she had to write me an essay on why her behavior wasn’t appropriate and how it made myself or another person feel. And if she picked on one of the other kids, they got to choose a chore of theirs to give her for the day. It worked pretty well. I can’t say it solved EVERYTHING of course, but it helped a good bit and ended some of the power struggle.

Goooooooood Luck!

]]> By: Cat @ 3 Kids and Us http://1stopmom.com/2009/01/19/how-do-you-handle-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1153 Cat @ 3 Kids and Us Tue, 20 Jan 2009 02:06:56 +0000 http://1stopmom.com/blog2/?p=1435#comment-1153 The best advice I can offer is DON'T GIVE IN. Giving in shows weakness and weakness tells your kids they can do as they want because nothing that bad will happen. Our son lost his bedroom tv 6 months ago because of his attitude. Each time he smarted off, it sat in the closet for another month. Each month we hear less and less from his mouth and he may actually get it back in the next 2 weeks. Cat @ 3 Kids and Uss last blog post..<a href="http://3kidsandus.com/2009/01/19/let-the-nesting-begin/" rel="nofollow">Let the Nesting Begin</a> The best advice I can offer is DON’T GIVE IN. Giving in shows weakness and weakness tells your kids they can do as they want because nothing that bad will happen.

Our son lost his bedroom tv 6 months ago because of his attitude. Each time he smarted off, it sat in the closet for another month. Each month we hear less and less from his mouth and he may actually get it back in the next 2 weeks.

Cat @ 3 Kids and Uss last blog post..Let the Nesting Begin

]]> By: Aria'z Ink http://1stopmom.com/2009/01/19/how-do-you-handle-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1152 Aria'z Ink Mon, 19 Jan 2009 23:12:30 +0000 http://1stopmom.com/blog2/?p=1435#comment-1152 I wish I had some great advice for you, but unfortunately, my time honored method of a cast-iron-skillet-to-the-noggin is now a sure way to get arrested... what is this world coming to? But, I do have something for you... an award for you over on my site... may not be an answer, but at least, hopefully, it's a smile! ;-) Aria'z Inks last blog post..<a href="http://ariazink.blogspot.com/2009/01/you-like-me-you-really-really-like-me.html" rel="nofollow">You Like Me... You Really, Really Like Me</a> I wish I had some great advice for you, but unfortunately, my time honored method of a cast-iron-skillet-to-the-noggin is now a sure way to get arrested… what is this world coming to? But, I do have something for you… an award for you over on my site… may not be an answer, but at least, hopefully, it’s a smile! ;-)

Aria’z Inks last blog post..You Like Me… You Really, Really Like Me

]]> By: Stephanie @ bizziemommy.com http://1stopmom.com/2009/01/19/how-do-you-handle-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1151 Stephanie @ bizziemommy.com Mon, 19 Jan 2009 22:05:19 +0000 http://1stopmom.com/blog2/?p=1435#comment-1151 I totally agree I'm having a problem trying to figure out just how to discipline my 3 year old. We put her on time out in her room but now it doesn't bother her because everything is in there. She is very strong willed always has been so it's always a challenge. I found your blog by way of mommydaddyblog.com. Stephanie @ bizziemommy.coms last blog post..<a href="http://www.bizziemommy.com/photography-tips-monday.html" rel="nofollow">photography tips monday</a> I totally agree I’m having a problem trying to figure out just how to discipline my 3 year old. We put her on time out in her room but now it doesn’t bother her because everything is in there. She is very strong willed always has been so it’s always a challenge. I found your blog by way of mommydaddyblog.com.

Stephanie @ bizziemommy.coms last blog post..photography tips monday

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