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No one can be happy everyday but let me explain to you…The Thing That Made Me Smile Today….
I didn’t want to share this here but I found myself thinking so much about it that I had to take a moment and share my thoughts.
I was watching a reality TV show, as I do way too much. (I have to admit I am a reality TV junkie.) Anyway, I was watching this show and the main “character” lost her expensive designer bag at the airport. This bag contained all of the material things that she felt were important,…her jewelry, her pillow, her hair…etc. To make it even worst her assistant who just happened to also be her cousin was the one in charge of the bag. She was so devastated about this bag because she said it contained her entire life. So she did like most of us probably would do, she prayed, a few times actually. Well amazingly her bag was found. She cried tears of joy! She also yelled at her cousin/assistant saying that she had to do better.
I have very mixed feeling about how she reacted to having her bag lost and recovered. While I can understand exactly how she feels, I don’t know if I agree with how much importance these things were to her. Please don’t think I’m being insensitive or placing judgment on her I just feel like she didn’t even know how blessed she really was.
You see my friends; I lost every single material thing I owned in a house fire a little over a year ago. I have actually compared the feeling to losing your luggage at the airport, but times ten and with no hope of getting any of it back. So how ironic it is that I am watching this show about exactly that. And while I would have more than likely been freaking out too about losing my things, I have a much different perspective now.
I don’t by any means want pity, I just wanted to share how and why I can smile now. I am now without my kids baby pictures BUT I can smile because I still have my kids. We all made it out alive and amazing unharmed! I smile at my memories of them as little babies and while I don’t have the pictures that I loved so much I have the children that I love even more. I smile because of all of the wonderful things in this world that I still have the opportunity to experience with my two beautiful children.
I do have my bad days when I begin to mourn for a material thing but I always end up smiling at the way God made me understand better what is truly important. I smile at this life I have lived so far that has brought to me so many lessons that others don’t get to live through. I know I was spared for a purpose, I know I have reason for this life. And that makes me smile.
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Once when i was on weekend in other city someone stole my bag with everything what i have on this trip, i have only wallet in my pocket and things i wore, when i met my friends they asked me where i have my stuff i said exactly what happend and i wasn’t too convincingly because they didn’t believe me, i was laughing when i was saying those story and they just couldn’t believe, i just said to myself that there is no reason to ruin whole weekend because of some things, of course it was sad but i couldn;t change it so i didn’t see reason why i should be sad.
Twitter: lisanoel03
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thanks for sharing this. I have a close friend who lost every in a fire almost a year ago and is just starting to regain some normalcy. I can’t even imagine.
Twitter: 1lesscorpgirl
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Thanks for taking the time to comment. I’m sure friend has felt the same way I have over the last year, at times I search the new house looking for something I swear I have only to realize I don’t have it any more. Or even worst something new that I bought and have misplaced, but can’t for the life of me remember if it was BTF (Before the fire) or ATF (After the fire). So you are right it took a good long time to get back to normal.
Twitter: 1lesscorpgirl
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I think people have a hard time believing that you are okay when something like that happens. But of course you are mostly because you have to be. But what a positive attitude to have!
Twitter: JR_Seaman
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I love a good testimony! Praise God that all you lost were material things, not saying that they did not hold value for you but compared to what could have been lost you were indeed blessed!
Twitter: 1lesscorpgirl
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It is such a blessing! And it was at Christmas time and we lost all of our presents too, but it was really the best Christmas ever, so many people showed me so much love! Not just my family and friends but complete strangers!
Twitter: over30mommy
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Thank you for sharing, I am sorry for the loss you sustained from the fire but I am glad that you used such a terrible experience and turned it around in to a positive.
Twitter: 1lesscorpgirl
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Thanks you so much.
Something like that will absolutely put what’s most important in the forefront of your mind. I’m so glad that you all were safe!
Twitter: 1lesscorpgirl
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Oh yes it does. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment.
Twitter: Penelopes_Oasis
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I understand what she went through, because I keep my id, emergency money, and contact lens supplies in my purse (all necessary), but a fire would surely put things in perspective for anyone. She cared about the frivolous, not the necessary, so I get your point too.
Twitter: 1lesscorpgirl
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Yea that is a good thing to do and I would say to store all of your photos on a website too instead of a photo album. Thanks for stopping by.
Twitter: mausekindmom
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Thanks for sahring this post… and I don;t think you are a bad person for posting this at all. This is how you feel and I totally understand; So glad that you and the kids are okay and everything else can be “replaced” or be kept in memory….
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Twitter: thelifeofrylie
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I’m tearing up a little bit here. What a great post with a great lesson. We all do want material things, but *most* material things can be replaced. I’m so sorry you had to go through that tragedy, but you are all OK, and that is what really matters.
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Twitter: dddiva
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I can’t even imagine losing everything you own, but I am one who can give up all of my materiel possessions, grab my kids and go on a moments notice and have done it more than once. While I love nice things I simply don’t place the value on them that others do.
I think you are doing great to have come so far to be able to count your blessings and realize what truly matters- the love in your life, not the things we accumulate (I still miss some things too, but like you I remind myself I have all I need with my loved ones).
The reality shows- I’m not such a fan, but hopefully they just played up the bad to make the star look as bad as possible for the shock value.
Great post, thanks for sharing.
Twitter: GrinCheek2Cheek
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Yeah, it can be pretty traumatic losing everything. I like to think I prepare myself for those situations: When I travel – I typically include at least a pair or two of underwear and basic essentials to get me through one day on my carry-on; and that certainly came in handy on my most recent trip to Ukraine for a Dental missions trip, where my bags were delayed for 48 hours. I at least had a change of clothes and underwear in my carry on – and was able to enjoy a little bit!
But it sure does make you realize how convenient life can be sometimes when you do lose something.
My hard drive failed once, making me think I had lost all photos and music dating back to 2002. Then my husband miraculously recovered them (it was not easy – he had to install new motors and everything to the hard drive) but we got them recovered, and immediately backed them up onto DVD’s and we store those at my moms house. just.in.case. Six months was long enough without those pictures in my life – heaven forbid something as terrible as a fire would happen. I can’t imagine the loss.
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Losing your physical possessions in a fire certainly does lend a new perspective to the “things that matter.”
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